Tuesday, April 7, 2020

When The Changes Keep Changing

Every day as we continue to take on new information surrounding this pandemic I just think to myself

"where is this going?".

Some days it seems like it’s only ever getting worse. And other days it feels like we are going to be just fine. 

I’m no stranger to spending days on end inside my home, although more recently I now have company. I have opened up my home to my best friend of 15 years.

Sharing my new space with another person can sometimes be challenging but also really interesting.

Between trying to create more space within my space for the both of us and staying on task with my goal at the top of this year to be more social and visible on social media, I am discovering new nooks and crannies of a space I’ve been inhabiting well over six months now. I’ve been discovering new parts of my home that get more light over others, tricks to get the right shot since I can't go out and figuring out creative ways to use rooms I wouldn’t normally take pictures in.

I’m digging in.

I’ve also been just trying to maintain a sense of normality because of all the changes I am experiencing in the micro and macro.


Tuesday, March 31, 2020

It's still Womens History Month

Yes, it is.

I’ve been a girl’s girl my entire life. From the days on the playground as a little girl creating girls only fashion clubs, to the women rights social justice work I’ve done as a grown woman, I’ve always made a point to surround myself with fun, brave and intelligent women and fight like hell for them.

Speaking of intelligent women,

I guess you can say the first best friend I ever had was a woman; my mother. 
Her name is Genesis like the Bible. 

She had me when she was just 18 years old, and we’ve been kicking it since. The idea of growing up at the same time as your mother it’s a weird idea for some. Now that I look back, it was probably very difficult for her as well, and definitely, an incredible sacrifice for sure. As a kid, I did not fully understand our boundaries as mother and daughter because to me it felt like we were just two women figuring our life together. I laugh now as I digest the actual age difference between us. Most days when I wasn't acting out, we were pretty much equal. 

I will say, the amount of trust she has for me (even to this day) has always been shaking, but educational. She gave me so much responsibility from a young age because we were surviving. 

There are so many ways in which she has prepared me for my own adulthood that I am truly thankful for. There are so many things I have learned from my mother that she didn’t actually teach me that have prepared me for my own adulthood. It’s funny how that happens. It’s even funnier to me when I think about how when she was my age (28) she had both me and my younger brother. I can’t even imagine taking in another cat at this point in my life, let alone having two humans to take care of. 

And unrepayable debt.


One of the many K-WAYS I have agreed to in order to be a better Kristianna, is being a champion for other women. 

Even when it hurts, 
even when there are social consequences,
and even if it results in loss. 

I stand for women,Period. 

Now more than ever, even in an impending apocalypse, women all over need to continue to have each other‘s backs. I imagine things are going to continue to get rocky from this point. Our rights as women are coming into question behind closed doors. Let us continue to be diligent about the things that will not only affect us but our family and friends as well. Let’s keep pushing and challenging each other to get these hustles up and running to keep our businesses growing stronger. Let’s check on each other while keeping our social distance, this is a lonely time for so many people. Let’s take time for ourselves to do what makes us happy, even if what makes us happy is doing nothing. Let’s virtually hold each other up. We are womxn. 

Wednesday, March 25, 2020

Doing Normal Things

I haven’t been outside in a couple of days but that’s pretty normal for me. 
Introvert for sure. 
I feel like I’ve been plenty productive; cleaning my house, re-doing my dining room and finally getting around to my blog. I’ve even had time to play in my make up. Uoma Beauty announced a contest a few weeks back with their Carnival collection. I just wanted to share my entry on the blog. I purchased Patrick Starr's "She Better Don’t" makeup set.
 I’m pretty sure I rocked it. 
Wish me luck. 


Monday, March 23, 2020

Finding Comfort

As a child, some of my most precious memories have always revolved around food. From big family gatherings with my very small family to Friday pizza night with my mom and siblings. Some of the best conversations and memories have come with a side of deliciousness. I’m not well-versed on love languages but I know I love my friends and I also love to feed them. I know that in times in need of comfort, there is always a certain kind of coffee, tea or some other beverage that just has the ability to extinguish the moments of unpredictability just right. These are times of uncertainty. Although our greater society may say shame on me for saying that I look to food in times of uncertainty. 

I do. 

I’d like to say that for the most part, my day-to-day meals are rather responsible, however, I do indulge. 

Humans indulge. 

As a child, one of my favorite meals was always fried potatoes with peppers and onions, topped with a fried egg or two. I think it’s funny that of all the more complicated meals my mother has prepared for us, something so simple would be responsible for so much joy. (I’m also a potato head so that helps.) I bought two potatoes at the market while I was getting my quarantine food. As someone who Is trying to mind what I eat, I find it easier to indulge in the things I like when I can just buy one or two as opposed to an entire bag of potatoes. 

Peppers and onions are a part of my everyday diet whether I’m throwing them in a scramble egg combo or in a salad. If I didn’t think it was weird I’d probably just eat peppers by themselves. I love projects, in the process of creating something to get my mind off things with an outcome I can feel confident in. Some people don’t like food pics but I’m a foodie and so here is my finished product.

It was delicious. 

I encouraged you this week to dig deep and recall your favorite dish, now that we are in quarantine you may not be able to go out and get it or create it but if you can, get in that kitchen and get busy.

It might make you feel better.